A Friend In Me: How to Be a Safe Haven for Other Women

June 10

We all like to have friends. Sometimes, we need more than a friend. Someone who we can confide in, sharing something that we wouldn’t share with just anybody. I know I always connected with older women. I think it’s because I felt intimidated by women my age because I felt there was always this silent competition. Now, as I am getting older, I feel the need to befriend the younger generation. I read a book recently that gives great insight on befriending younger women and becoming their ‘safe haven’.

The chapter that really spoke to me most was about women contemplating abortion. The experience shared in the book showed how genuine compassion for someone facing this decision helped her to make the best decision for the baby (and herself). We are often too quick to just tell others what they should do. Instead we should be showing that we care about a person, not pointing our fingers at them.

This book, which I share with you below, has also show me some ways I can befriend my teenage daughter. She is growing up and I need to quit pointing my finger at her and show her just how much I really care about her.

I received this book via Litfuse Publishing in exchange for my honest review.

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A Friend in Me – Reviewed @ This Mom’s Delight


About the book:
Young women long for relational connection with women further ahead of them on the journey. Yet, without realizing it, many of us tend to distance ourselves from those in younger generations.

Can we really have close relationships with women who have different thoughts on church, different experiences with family, and different ways of talking about God? Where do we start?

In A Friend in Me, Pam Lau shows you how to be a safe place for the younger women in your life. She offers five patterns women need to internalize and practice for initiating relationships and talking about issues such as faith, forgiveness, sexuality, and vocation. Most significantly, she reminds you that there doesn’t need to be a divide between generations of women. Together, we can have a global impact—and experience adeeper faith than we’ve ever known.

Purchase a copy: https://bit.ly/1RXNAmd

About the author:

Pamela Havey Lau

Pam Lau is the author of Soul Strength and numerous articles for such publications as Christian Scholar’s Review andChristianity Today. She has taught writing at George Fox University and speaks around the country at conferences and retreats. A graduate of Liberty University and Colorado State University, Lau lives near Portland, Oregon, with her husband and three daughters.

Find Pamela online: website, Twitter


  • Reply
    by Michelle Westbrook
    June 11 at 11:34 am

    I was recently in a young adult discussion group where the main topic was growing an inter-generational church. It really opened my eyes to the importance of building relationships across different generations. This looks like a great read 🙂

    PS – I really like your new design!

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    June 29 at 5:09 pm

    I have benefited greatly from having both older and younger friends in my life. Each bring their own experiences and insights that help me grow in so many ways. And I agree, compassion breeds connection.

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    June 29 at 9:43 pm

    sounds wonderful! I should check this book out. Friendships are a critical need. I’ve recently lost close friendships with women I considered older sisters. The void is deep and the sadness is surprising. Praying that God brings others into my life to fulfill the need for friendship.

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    Coupon Gal (Andi)
    June 30 at 4:09 am

    definitely a new concept for me 😀

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    Brandi @ penguinsinpink.com
    June 30 at 5:54 pm

    This has been on my heart a lot lately… the need for a mutligenerational church. A church where older women invest in younger women and younger women invest in older women. This book sounds like something I should read.

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