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How to Listen So People Will Talk

September 27
by Becky Harling
Published by Bethany House

A goal of mine is to build deeper connections. I’ve discovered recently that strong communication is a prerequisite to having those deeper connections.

I admit it. I am the worst listener, unless, of course, it is a topic I am genuinely interested in. Still, I want to be a better friend. I have a few friends that are never too busy to listen to me or lift me up in their prayers. I admire that quality and want to become a better friend, listener, and person of prayer.

How to Listen So People Will Talk


There are nine areas in the art of listening covered in the complimentary copy of the book I received (pictured above). The one I most need to work on first is ‘monitoring my nonverbal signals’. (You can read more about this and the other eight in the book.) In my case, nonverbals include eye rolls, sighs and looking away. Sometimes looking away is only because I am uncomfortable with the topic or feel inadequate to help. (That is one of the other eight areas.)  I also learned that ’60-75% of our message is nonverbal communication’. I really should’ve figured that out on my own being married 20+ years.

“We need to give attention to our non-verbal communication if we want to strengthen our relationships.” Becky Harling

The Scripture presented in this book regarding nonverbal communication, as well as the other eight areas, were quite convicting. This book has helped me to see where I’m flawed in communication. I am eager to become a better listener.


How to Listen So People Will Talk Book Cover How to Listen So People Will Talk
Becky Harling
Bethany House Publishers
August 1

About the Book

No relationship is perfect--but it can be better. The secret to stronger relationships isn't to become more charming or funny or to solve the world's problems or to just try harder. All you have to do is listen. It's that simple. Yet our noisy culture hasn't equipped us to do this. With warmth and a touch of humor, personal coach and expert communicator Becky Harling shares simple, practical listening tools that will help you become a person others are drawn to and want to spend time with, as well as how to: · be fully present · offer understanding instead of advice · ask great questions · create a sense of safety and trust · manage your body language · and more! When you learn to listen well, your marriage will grow stronger, your parenting will flourish, your friendships will thrive, and your influence at work will increase. You will be amazed at how one simple act can transform the hearts of others--as well as your own.

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