Do you ever wonder if you married the wrong person or have fallen out of love with your spouse? Do you wonder if your marriage would be better if only he would change? While I wholeheartedly believe marriage is for life, I do have these thoughts from time to time. I recently If My Husband Would Change, I'd Be Happy (& Other Myths Wives Believe) just to see if the book could offer me anything I didn't already know after being married 21 years…
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The book includes Ten Keys to a Fulfilling Marriage. I could stand to improve on most of them. However, there are two that really stand out. The first is the area of happiness. The second is the area of arguments.
One hang up I have in marriage is thinking my hubby is responsible for making me happy. That is not the case. Our joy comes from the Lord and I know that, yet I still have this “unfair expectation” as Rhonda puts it. She has reminded me that I should be delighting in the Lord, not focusing on another human providing my happiness.
Neither hubby nor I are peacemakers. We tend to take turns starting arguments with one another. Then, expecting the other one to be the one to forgive. Ultimately, we forgive each other and go on, because we love each other. But this pattern is unhealthy. Rhonda has really encouraged me, while reading this book, to become a peacemaker and forgive my husband repeatedly. The things we do to start fights are petty and sometimes silly. Sometimes they do seem like a big deal at the time, but from an eternal perspective, we are just wasting time we could be investing in our relationship. Yet, from everything this book, this is the piece that I will be working on diligently on a daily basis to bring peace about in our marriage.
This book serves as a wonderful tool for any married woman, whether she's just now saying her vows, or celebrating a 10 year anniversary. It would even be wise to read it, along with Scripture, before she accepts a marriage proposal.
About the book:
Like most brides on their wedding day, you no doubt were filled with love for your husband and the hope of a happy life together.
But perhaps today, as the realities of life together have settled in, those happy expectations are going unfulfilled. And it's tempting to think, “If only my husband would change, I'd be happy.”
That myth is but one of many that Rhonda Stoppe dispels in her easy-to-read exploration of what it takes to experience a truly happy marriage. In the process, she addresses such important topics as
-understanding your husband's need for your unconditional respect
-rekindling the love that drew you to your husband in the first place
-refusing to believe the lie that you'd be happier married to someone else
-learning to be content in the midst of financial struggles
-thinking about sex from a biblical worldview
If you desire to rekindle the love and hope you felt on your wedding day, this book will go a long way toward making that dream come true.
Contains discussion questions and personal reflections at the end of each chapter.
About the author:
Rhonda Stoppe is the No Regrets Woman. She is an author and speaker dedicated to helping women live life with no regrets. With more than 20 years' experience as a mom, mentor, and pastor's wife, Rhonda's wisdom and experience helps women discover significance in God and His specific purpose for their lives, connect biblical principles to everyday decisions, develop a loving marriage that others dream about, and influence the next generation by raising children with integrity.