Never Say No: Raising Big-Picture Kids

May 28

Never Say No: Raising Big Picture Kids

The question Mark and Jan Foreman are most often asked is: How did you raise your kids?

Mark and Jan Foreman’s adult sons Jon and Tim Foreman of Switchfoot have influenced their world not only by a successful music career but also through their positive impact on communities around the globe. The Foreman parents instilled in their sons a belief that they could make a difference by living beyond themselves.

This powerful book gives readers an inside look at the process. It begins with both parent and child finding their identity in God. It then explores practical ways to encourage holistic learning while cultivating specific gifts, nurturing creativity in a media-saturated culture, and balancing structure with individual choice. Never Say No inspires readers to raise children to live in the wonder of life by loving others well. Parents will find encouragement for their own parenting journey as they guide their kids to live out God’s purpose in radical ways.

About the Authors:

Mark and Jan Foreman - Authors of Never Say No

Mark and Jan Foreman – Authors of Never Say No

Jan and Mark Foreman live in the San Diego area, where Mark is lead pastor of North Coast Calvary Chapel. Mark is the author of Wholly Jesus, and holds advanced degrees in Theology, Education and a Ph.D. in Counseling and Pastoral Care. Jan is a gifted teacher, artist, and she also facilitates partnerships with underprivileged women and children both locally and in developing countries. Together they love surfing, sailing, travel and especially being with their family.

My Review:

I love these parents’ approach. I remember days when I would tell the kiddos no when they wanted me to get in the floor or go outside to play with them. I was too busy or mostly too tired. Just the other day my daughter made a comment about “that look” when I don’t really want to listen to what she has to say. She says dad has a look, too. That hit me hard. I want to be an involved parent. I know I have other things on my mind but when I’m conveying to my child(ren) that they aren’t important enough to be listened to, I am doing something wrong.

While this book covers more than my need to listen enthusiastically to my children, that is what has spoken to me the loudest while reading this book. The book is an imperfect couple’s parenting journey and covers topics including:

    • The Goal of Parenting – This made me realize that I never had goals, other than their salvation. Their spiritual growth was important to me, but I didn’t make it a priority.
    • The Power of Our Words – I’ve said a few things that just can’t be taken back.
    • Discipline – I’ll be reading this section again. I’m not sure I agree (or disagree) with this part of the book. I didn’t master the art of discipline with my older two. They are great kids, but it’s been a rocky road because we failed to teach them a few things due to a lack of consistent discipline. I want to take a different approach with my youngest, but I’m not sure what just yet. (I better decide fast though, as he is two and showing it!)
    • Preparing Them for the Adult Life – This is the stage I’m at now. I’m getting a late start, but the book has redirected my intentions (or lack of).
    • Family Values & Relationships – more on this later

I recommend this book to parents. I have gained a lot out of it as a mother of a toddler {fairly new kiddo to work with} and two teenagers {harder to remold, but I would like to change how they see me as a mother}. You more than likely will be hearing more from me on the application of this book.

Disclosure: I received a copy via Litfuse Publicity in exchange for my honest review. Get your copy here. You can read more reviews by following the blog tour.


  • Reply
    May 30 at 6:07 pm

    Parenting books are always fascinating though i dont know how useless i would find it in reality. Great review.

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    Jaclyn Anne
    May 31 at 9:21 am

    This sounds like a terrific book for parents of for those who are expecting. Thank you for sharing your review!

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    Jess Benoit
    May 31 at 10:09 am

    This sounds like a great book. I know the hubs and I are working on not being this way anymore. It’s so easy to wave them off & tell them to go play or find something to do.

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    May 31 at 6:53 pm

    Sounds like a great book. Glad you enjoyed it.

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