As I was listening to Michael Hyatt & Michele Cushatt’s podcast “Making Peace with an Unexpected Life,” I was brought to tears.
She has approached the empty nest years as her children are growing up and moving out. She receives a call about taking in three small children, ages four and under. She immediately thinks no. She and her husband are past the child-rearing age. They don’t have time to take this one. They don’t have the things they need to care for these children. She’s recently battled cancer, which in itself, is enough reason to say no.
Yet, knowing that these child need somebody to love them and raise them, she and her husband travel to another state to bring them home.
I’ve always had a burden in my heart to adopt an unloved child. All children deserve loves, yet so many are without parents, without love, without a home. We’ve never adopted for several reasons.
My husband doesn’t have the same heart burden.
We can’t afford to.
We don’t have the time.
I get impatient with my own kids.
Hearing Michele speak this morning brought me to a realization:
A child needs love from someone more than they need a perfect parent. They’ve never had a perfect parent, so anyone who would love them and give them what they could of their time and resources would be off so much better than being in tossed from foster home to foster home.
A child needs a place to call home more than they need to have everything you gave your own children. Your children living at home would be better of to share with these children rather than growing up selfishly playing with the toys and gadgets you’ve bought them.
A child needs a chance at a decent life. I have read over and over that a big percentage of foster children do not excel in school or graduate. Imagine the low-self esteem that a child (and someday an adult) carries around with them having never been loved their entire lifetime.
While being a foster parent is hard work and heart-wrenching, it is a sacrifice that will mean the world to a child. Yes, the child comes to you as damaged goods. Don’t let that stop you, especially if you are being convicted to love an unloved child. Michele Cushatt said something that I am unable to quote word for word because I didn’t take good notes, but one word stuck out. Miracle. She said [paraphrased] “There is a miracle in taking in a child that is not your own — a miracle that far outweighs the troubles and inconveniences that come with that child.”
I am talking mostly to myself here. I have never acted on this heart burden I have. I want to though. I must take those excuses and honestly deal with each on of them and see where I truly am at as far as taking a child in as my own.
If you have the same heart burden, I encourage you to do the same; honestly evaluate with each excuse. A child’s life is at stake here! I would love to hear from you if you are considering adopting a child or have already. Also, if you are considering becoming a foster parent or are one already.