Working Mom Friendships

This is Day 7 of the 31 Days to a Better Life: Living Life on Purpose series.  {Subscribe here.}  You can find all of the posts here.

Who needs friends anyway? You may not think you have the time, energy or need to cultivate a new or existing friendship. You really should reconsider.  Friends are a wonderful source of encouragement, mentorship and support.  You can’t spend all of your time reading… {or can you}?!?

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What is a Friend?

A worthy friendship has 5 qualities: unselfishness, acceptance, trust, edification and respecting healthy boundaries.  In  my own words, a friend is someone you can trust to share your happy times and struggles with and not worry about your conversation being disclosed to another person.  God’s word says “A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother” Proverbs 18:24.

Where do I make friends?

You can seek out a friend the way that best suits you.  You can meet fellow working moms in your local community, church, workplace or even online.

Friendships In Your Local Community

MomsMeetUp.com is a group of “neighbors getting together to learn something, do something, share something” per the slogan on their website.  I did a search for working moms group in my area.  The closest one was 45 minutes away, which is not convenient for me. MomMeetMom.com is a site that matches you to another mom based on similar interests, schedules, families, and personalities.  I didn’t do a search on that one, because it required me to sign up first.

There are more options available by searching the internet for “local mom groups” or related searches. Do be prayerful before deciding whether or not you seek out friends from these or similar sites.

Friendships In the Workplace

You may be able to make a few friendships with fellow co-workers. Your may have a co-worker that you have made a friendship with that would like to grow the friendship beyond work hours.  However, it would be wise to have a few friends outside of work for those times you have a work issue you’re facing that you can’t discuss with a fellow co-worker.

Friendships In Your Church

Although I have been told by several working moms that their churches are not supportive of them, I am fortunate to belong to a church family that loves her working mothers. Is your church supportive of your role as a working mother? Either way, you can reach out to other working moms within your church body and those that visit. You could really encourage one another inside and outside of the church.

Friendships In Online Communities or Groups

If you can’t find a local group or all your responsibilities just don’t allow for you to get away long enough to meet another mom for coffee, find an online community of working moms to connect with. Get involved in a support group for working moms, even if it’s online.  I am currently a member of a  group on Facebook. There are 50+ members, with a handful participating. The few that do participate have been a great encouragement to me during my job search. If you’re interested, request to join the Christian Working Moms Facebook Group.  You can find other groups on Yahoo and other social sites.

Rules for Online {and Offline} Friendships

Be prayerful and use your common sense (or gut feeling) when you are with your friend.  Here are some basic rules for friendships:

  1. Don’t engage in any discussion that involves or leads to immoral topics.
  2. Don’t engage in male bashing.  It’s easy to want to talk about your husband when you’re mad at him, but you must be careful not to treat him with disrespect.
  3. Don’t engage in gossip.  It’s another easy trap to fall into.  If you say, “I’m not gossiping, but…”, then you’d probably better not say it at all.  I know from personal experience that it’s just a front to gossip.
  4. Never disclose information you wouldn’t want shared with others.  You risk any friend turning their back on you.
  5. Memorize or be familar with Philippians 4:8 as it can be the prompting you need when you’re tempted to participate in any negative speaking, as mentioned above.
  6. Do give encouragement to the other working moms, as much, if not more, than you are being encouraged.  God will bless you.
  7. Do share your experiences and frustrations without disclosing too much.  Another working mom can be encouraged in knowing that she’s not alone in her current battle.
  8. Be prayerful about everything you say and do, especially making new friends.  There are stalkers and predators out there, even female ones.

In summary, find some working moms to befriend.   Friendships do take time, but they are worth the encouragement and support you need as a working mom.  I’m a working mom and look forward to reading your comments below.

Leave a comment below:  What is your suggestion for making new friends?

10 thoughts on “Working Mom Friendships

  1. I think that some of my best friendships were with my co-workers when I worked full-time, because you usually spend at least 8 hours a day with them. I agree that it is important build and maintain friendships. It can be hard though when you have very different lives, work different places, or even live in different states. (I’ve moved a few times!) 🙂

    1. Karen, my friendships stem mostly from work and church. I have one friendship that stuck from high school. The closest friendships for me, though, come from church.

  2. I have noticed that as I have gotten older, I have changed and don’t have a lot in common with my old friends. I am still friendly with them but I notice that we break a lot of your rules for friendship. I really don’t enjoy the negativity.
    I really love that you posted this today because I have been longing to develop better friendships with the 5 qualities you mentioned.
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    1. Michelle, I admit, I’ve been the negative one in my friendships lately. I’ve let the circumstances of life take hold of my emotions. It is something I’m working on. I don’t like the negative moody me.

  3. That’s a hard question to answer. I had friends when I worked after I had my children, however, we didn’t do too much socializing after work. This one friend that I did have, was definitely making a pain of herself. She would constantly show up at my home unannounced, purchase gifts for everyone just because and I felt very uncomfortable with the whole thing. She was nice, however, I feel like my friendship was being “bought” because she would constantly vent on me about her problems and this guy she was seeing that was married. I had to quit work due to an auto accident and problems to which I became disabled. This friend I mentioned, just disappeared! Never heard from her again. Makes you wonder, huh? Now that I’m home all day, it’s hard to find “good” friends. I have my neighbors who are considered “friendly” but not that you would definitely “go out” with. Needless to say it’s been a very long time since I’ve had a “real friend” that I could talk to about things that bother me and such. Making friends just doesn’t happen overnight and it takes time to really get to know someone. So, I spend time with my kids and my husband and do the usual mom thing and I get by! I hope by now you have found a “good” friend! They are a great asset to have in your life! Thanks for sharing. Michele 🙂
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    1. Oh, Michele! That’s one thing I didn’t touch on … users that mask their identities as friends. Don’t let that one “friend” keep you from making new friends. That’s what is great about the internet. You can make friends and keep a safe distance. I’m thankful you have a family to spend your time with. 🙂

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