Ages & Stages

The Wife I No Longer Desire To Be

April 12





Ms. Attitude

These are words that describe a certain woman I know.

Rebellious against God’s Word when it comes to the wife’s duties within a marriage.

Self-centered when it comes to her husband and his simple requests.

Vengeful and mean when she doesn’t get her way.  She should be treated like a princess, you know!

Ms. Attitude given anytime she pleases.

I don’t like this girl!  Really, lately her ways have left a bad taste in my mouth.

Yes, if you don’t know, I am talking about myself here.

I thank the Lord to opening my eyes over the last few months.  I know what God’s Word says about marriage.  I’ve read it over and over!

The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.   She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.” Proverbs 31:11,12

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“...Love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.” Titus 2:4b,5

Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.   For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.”  (Ephesians 5:22,23

When you read these verses they can seem harsh, demeaning and undo-able.  Yet, I realize they seemed that way to me, simply because I read them with a resistant heart that wasn’t trusting God.  I’ve been trying God’s Word out on my marriage more and more, a marriage that I had wrecked many years ago.  (For some reason, my husband stuck with me, even though I wasn’t a wife worth keeping—remember those adjectives above—yuck!)  Anyway, God’s Word works!!  You wouldn’t believe the blessings I am experiencing by being the opposite of ME!

No, I’m not the perfect wife now.  Yet, I see God’s hand in most of my decisions, responses and actions.  My husband says he even sees a change in me over the last eight months.  That makes me smile, because my change apparently isn’t a temporary one.  I thank God for that!

It’s not easy work.  Every day is a challenge.  I’ve bitten my lip so many times, to keep from saying what I would normally just spout out without a second thought.  No, I’m not looking for praise.  I’m giving praise to God, because I thought I was a hopeless cause.  God has proven otherwise!  I’m just here to tell you wives that are unhappy with your marriage to get into God’s Word.  Do God’s Word without resistance and there will be changes in your marriage you never thought were possible!

Please pray for me.  The temptation to return to the ‘norm’ is always there.  Thanks!

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  • Reply
    Rachel @ a la Modest
    April 12 at 7:55 pm

    Hi Tami,

    I was so touched by what you wrote here. Thank you for writing this entry. You’re quite an example to all of us wives who are struggling to be godly and be that Proverbs wife we are called to be. Although I may not know you personally, I will be praying for ya!

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  • Reply
    April 13 at 1:17 pm

    What a beautiful post, thank you for sharing your heart! My goodness, I think you described me in the early years of our marriage, lol!

    That first year I was selfish and demanding, and I hardened my heart, even though I knew it was wrong. Man, did I pray for the Lord to change me.

    Then, when the children came, I found myself struggling with my patience with them and so many times I felt like such a failure.

    So many times, we women try to change from the outside IN. We try to change our behavior and our actions first, but we are trying to do it in our own strength, and we aren’t changing in our hearts. So we struggle and fail and get discouraged.

    God changes us from the inside OUT. He starts with our heart, and then our actions, attitude and behavior reflect the change that He is bringing about in our hearts. You are a beautiful example of this, and I praise God for the beauty of your life! He is working!

    Thank you for linnking up today!

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