Are you a moody mom? a cranky bear? just plain emotional? Does your hubby ask you if you are in a mood? Do you kiddos whisper “What’s wrong with her?” as you storm past them? Sometimes we are moody, but we don’t know how else to be. You want to be nice. You want to be the best wife and mom, but everything is rubbing you the wrong way.
Here are 4 Reasons Not to Be a Moody Mom
{Because you know you want to smile, instead!}
1. A Moody Mom Produces a Moody Family.
Your mood rubs off on your family. You know the saying “If mama’s not happy , then nobody’s happy!” I’m not sure where this saying originated. {Answers.com says mama said it first. Of course, she did!} I’m sure you have noticed this when you’ve had an off day, everyone else follows suit. P.S. If you’re married, your husband is probably like mine and would rather see a genuine smile on his girl then a cross look. I’m confident you children would, too!
2. A Moody Mom Produces Ungrateful Children.
Children often are a reflecting of their upbringing. I have a complainer for a son and do I need to tell you that it’s because both his mom and dad have done a tad too much complaining? It’s so easy to complain, but we need to do our part to be thankful in all areas of life and genuinely display that in our lives so that our children can learn from our example.
3. A Moody Mom Does Not Reflect the Character of Christ.
You should be reflecting the character of Jesus. Jesus was not a complainer. As Edwina Patterson writes in Redeeming the Time – Where Do I Begin?, “If we are always complaining, who would want to worship our God?” Isn’t our calling in life to glorify God? How do we best glorify God? — bye living lives that lead others to Him. We must reflect His character, with includes gratitude.
4. A Moody Mom Does Not Have Anything to Be Grateful For.
That is incorrect. A moody mom has plenty to be grateful for; she just isn’t looking hard enough. What is gratitude and how am I supposed to apply it? Take out a piece of paper and number the lines 1-10. Now, write out ten things you are thankful for. Most lists will look like 1. God, 2. Husband, 3. Each of your children, 4. Job, and so on. Now go back and name three things you are grateful for about each of those things. Your list is multiplying, isn’t it!
It’s hard to be moody when you have so much gratitude overflowing! Do you really want to be that moody wife and mother anymore? Do you need a little help building that attitude of gratitude? I know I do!
What’s #5 on your list of Reasons Not to Be a Moody Mom? {Leave a comment.}
Love this…a moody mom will tend to isolate her friends. Friends are my support network and I would not want to be living in a bubble.
It’s easy to forget and be grateful for what we have and just focus on what you don’t have. I always say that I am a work in progress.
Great post – always best to be more aware of our own moods and the effect on others.
All four of these are TRUE! I would say my number five would be that YOU don’t like you when you’re moody. Find the source of your swing and deal with it rather than letting it deal with you.
Great post!
Tami, I’m visiting from the Ultimate Blog Challenge. You really touched my heart with this post. Such great points! My #5 would be: moodiness is exhausting, which leads to illness. Yes, people are often moody because they are exhausted. However, sticking to moodiness is tiring for yourself, as well as for everyone you come into contact with. Plus, a mood breeds moods, in you and around you. It’s best to pray, shake it off, put a smile on our face, and get in forward motion again. If there’s a real problem, address it in a healthy way. Thanks for a great post!
Though I agree, sometimes a moody mom is moody because she is not meeting her own needs. I don’t want to be moody. But sometimes I am tired. I warn my children and we all know that at a certain time of the day, we all need to pitch in and help out.
Great point. I think that’s part of my problem.
These are all excellent points! I’m fortunate that moody really isn’t in my personality. I’m very rarely angry or upset.
Great post Tami. Lot’s of really good points. You have a talent for expressing yourself. You need to write a book! I love Edwina Patterson’s book, “Redeeming the Time – Where Do I Begin?” I got it and the study guide years ago and it was life changing in so many ways. One of the best studies I have done. Love you!
This is an interesting and important topic. I am not a mom, but I had a mom, and she was depressed all the time. That certainly rubbed off on us in a very big way. Being moody would have the same effect on everyone around you. Who wants to be around someone that’s moody all the time? I finally realized in my own life that if I wanted to keep the people I love around me, I needed to change my thoughts. It took time and practice, but it was well worth it. Thanks for sharing this post! All the best!
As a mom I think it is important to not be moody because it is hard to get back into a normal phase later,
It really is too easy to get wrapped up in the moment and not see the blessings in each day. Thank you so much for sharing these tips with us.
Great post and yes a moody Mom has a big effect on the rest of the family.
I completely agree with all 4. I would also say that a moody mom can not appreciate the blessings in her life.
Great post! (I am having a hard time coming up wit ha 5th). I totally agree that our “mood” as a mother and wife affects the entire family. It’s so important to have an “eternal perspective” on life. If you do, often you realize what ever you are being moody about is just not worth it!
This is so true! Really good to realise the effects our moods are having on other people… If I’m a grump, how can I complain about grumpy kids?!
I second all of these! 🙂 I struggle with an anxiety disorder, so I have learned to be really clear with my husband when I am not doing so well. ‘I’m really anxious right now.’ He gives me the time I need to get myself together, but in the past I would just dwell in these feelings. My whole family would suffer, and it was miserable.
For me, I need to acknowledge that at this moment I am being irrational and give it to God before it gets out of hand.
Thank you for this post. 🙂
lol Great points! So important to stay cheerful and positive!
I hate being a moody mom bc I stay moody longer. No one likes to be moody! Great post!
Such a great post. Thank you for the reminder not to be moody. I need to watch my attitude. You are right, it really does hit home when I start to see my 3 year old pick up and imitate certain behaviors.
A moody mom raises moody children. God help me not to be moody! Thanks for sharing this very helpful topic, have a super blessed day!
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I have the evidencein my home to verify your statement. My daughter is just like me – the bad and the good!
Such a helpful post. Stopping by from #throwbackthursdays linky. I liked # 3 the best, but my #5 would be that a bad mood can ruin a whole day. Make a cup of coffee, read a favorite Bible verse, take a nap, go shopping. Just don’t let your mood ruin your day!
@Rachel ~ Oh, how many days have I let a small mood ruin?!? I’ll have to take your advice to read my Bible. It always helps me refocus and straighten up!
my #5 is…Being a moody mom makes you unapproachable and can hinder your children’s possible friendships! If your moody and unapproachable than other moms and dads may not come and ask to set up play dates or let their children come over to play at your house!
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@Angel ~ This isn’t something I even considered! I hope I haven’t ruined potential friendships because of my mood.