I spent most of my third full-term pregnancy exhausted and achy. You’d think that’d be a good reason to be whiny. I thought so, and I did just that – a lot of it.
Looking back I realize that I wasn’t being a good witness of the true blessing of pregnancy and the end result – motherhood. Yes, I love my child and yes I was very thankful that God had protected this baby all the way through my pregnancy.
This isn’t just a pregnancy issue. I tend to be grumpy and whine a lot. I have a lot to be thankful for yet, I air all the bad stuff. I want to change this in my life.
So, what could I have done differently?
— And what can I do differently now?
1. Express my concerns to my family that I need extra rest without being irritable, mean and unsociable.
2. Reflect the joy lost deep inside that I held for the baby I was carrying at the time.
3. Lean on God a little lot more for His strength.
God directs us to…
Do all things without murmurings and disputings. (Philippians 2:14)
That’s my goal for this week. Pregnancy is behind me, but I can have a grateful attitude about life and my not-so-enjoyable circumstances by focusing on the Lord and what He has provided in my life that are blessings.
Thanks to LeighAnn for bringing this to my attention.
14 Comments
Krista B
July 27 at 6:03 pmI’ve been grumpy about my neck and shoulders being in incredible pain – I am hoping that something will come to pass to show me why they hurt like this – there must be a reason!
Tami
July 27 at 6:24 pmThe chiropractor always helps my neck and back pain, but I’m not certain why yours is hurting. I hope you get some relief. There is a book that has daily exercises in it that you can do for some relief. I can’t think of the name of it.
mommasbacon
July 27 at 6:28 pmI’m currently in my third trimester and have had to deal with gestational diabetes (daily blood tests, strict diet, many appointments with specialists, just tiredness in general) and hypertension (I am not overweight at all and had no risk factors – fun!). It’s my third legit pregnancy after a preemie and a 2nd trimester miscarriage. It’s hard, but I know that the end result is worth it and that losing a baby while pregnant was one of the hardest things I have ever dealt with so far. Many women do not realize how lucky they are to have a safe and healthy pregnancy and I would love to have one right now but you have to work with the cards you are dealt. I will be happy when this baby is born (still hoping for a few more weeks!) and she either doesn’t have to go to the NICU or a very limited NICU stay and try not to think about that. I remind myself how fortunate I am with our older daughter and when it is a rough day that just having her here is fortunate. This is definitely the last child for our family since it is too hard to go through this again, but I have come to terms with that as has my husband. Anyway, there are always those who are worse off and those who have it easier in all circumstances and it just takes being okay with where you are in the moment to see there are positives in even the worst situations…even if you don’t see it until much later.
Tami
August 17 at 12:57 pmHave you had your baby yet? I’m excited to hear details.
Losing a baby is definitely heart-breaking. I lost one 4 years ago. Devastating. I pray all is going well with this baby.
becca
July 27 at 6:49 pmI have done pretty good about being grumpy since I had my daughter. Luckily during my pregnancy, I was on bed rest for 5 1/2 months, my oldest daughter and husband made things as easy as possible and kept reminding me of the joys that would come once it was over.
I don’t think I’ve been grumpy at all today..however, I know that we all have our moments and I’m sure I’ve had a few over the past few months. I try to apologize any time I do let things get to me.
Tara @ Tara, Dan & Clan
July 27 at 9:47 pmI miss being pregnant! Even with the suffering that I had, I miss it. I enjoyed seeing my belly grow and knowing that I WAS CREATING LIFE.
Bintu @ Recipes From A Pantry
July 27 at 10:06 pmHi ya, I have been grumpy about some of my recipes going wrong for my blog today and then I realise you know what I can just make them again and hey I have my health. And nothing beats the smiles from the mini chefs – that makes everything worth it.
Chrissy@ Parlo & LOGI
July 27 at 10:42 pmI think we should be given a free pass to be as grumpy as we please when pregnant! It’s hard work! And toss in a few extra kiddos to care for, households to maintain and jobs. We pretty much rock, us women folk. 😛
With my last pregnancy I had so many complications I was just grateful for each and every day that he was still growing inside of me that it was my least complain-y pregnancy. He made his bid debut on Christmas of last year a month before his due date!
Erin Piccione
July 28 at 1:07 amI was always crabby and in pain while pregnant and half the time I wouldn’t look back and think “wow, this is why”. I think I ended up taking a lot of it for granted. Every little pain and annoyance was so worth my amazing son 🙂
Today I’m grumpy because I have a stomach ache haha
That Suburban Momma
July 28 at 6:17 amOh, this is a great post. I think when most women are prego we should get a little leniency in the grumpy dept. But it’s good to reflect on it and try to have a more positive outlook. I started weight training a few weeks ago and this week my legs have been so sore that I can barely walk. Yes, it has made me super grumpy. Thanks for making me think about how I can handle it differently. Take care. 🙂
Tracy
July 28 at 8:08 pmI have a 9 year old son, who is very loving and generous…but who also thinks he knows everything and talks none stop!! I also have a 12 month old daughter who is into everything! I find myself getting frustrated very easily…and I don’t like that. I am normally very patient. But just this afternoon we had to have a talk with our kiddo about self-control…and God ended up having to have a little talk with me about my temper. I am reminded that we have to continually produce the fruits of the spirit. I thank God for the gift to live in love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, gentleness, faithfulness, goodness and self-control. Galatians 5:22
Judith at WholeHearted Home
July 29 at 3:15 amThanks Tami for this post!! I have thought about this lately and still need reminders. Seems I am a slow learner. I am linking up on the Alabaster Jar and found your post a couple spots before me. Have a wonderful time with your sweet baby and other two children.
Nikki @ Christian Mommy Blogger
July 30 at 5:34 pmThanks so much for sharing this with Fellowship Fridays! This post was a great encouragement to me and Leigh Ann!
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